What’s A Romantic Gift?

What’s the most romantic gift you could receive in the next 7 days?

Stop reading. Take a minute to consider your answer.

  • What does it look like?
  • What color is it?
  • How’s it packaged?

Chances are most of you never took even 3 seconds to answer the question. You continued reading without slowing down.

Some of you immediately thought of the romantic gift you’d like to receive. It might have taken just a couple seconds before the vision of that special gift formed in your mind.

A few more of you now have an idea for the romantic gift. But many of you still haven’t a clue what you’d consider to be a romantic gift. If forced to make a choice, you’d blurt something out, then wonder why you said that. It isn’t really romantic.

There’s a reason some immediately know what they’d want while others struggle to answer the question.

For some, the most romantic thing your sweetheart could do for you is give you a small gift, something that said he/she took time to find something specifically for you. It could be a piece of jewelry, a bottle of champagne, a stylized photo of the two of you or flowers.

If your sweetheart prefers to be romanced with gifts, you, like me, might struggle to come up with more than 2 romantic gift ideas. We’re not wired to be romanced with gifts. It’s not our preference. Because of that, it’s difficult for us to come up with romantic gift ideas.

If that’s you, don’t be afraid to ask for help. Search “Romantic Gifts” and see what ideas spark from this voyage of discovery.

Just remember, the size of the gift doesn’t matter. It’s the time you took to search and the meaning behind the gift which will romance your sweetheart.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Calligraphic Romance

If you’re married, do you remember your wedding vows? If not, do you have a recording of the ceremony?

Locate those wedding vows and create a special gift for your sweetheart. Turn them into a piece of art.

Find a place which will transform your vows into a framed piece of calligraphic artwork. Look on sites like Etsy, GoldenHourPaper, BespokeStrokes or OffBeatBride.

And if you’re not married, use words from your sweetheart’s favorite love song or something you create which speaks from your heart.

This is about creating a unique gift for your sweetheart, something special to romance her/him.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Changing Romantic Preferences

Recently I visited my daughter. Whenever I visit her, I bring along a little gift. I know my daughter. She likes to receive little gifts.

I unpacked my suitcase, took out the perfect t-shirt for her from Captain Jackson’s Historic Chocolate Shop in Boston. The t-shirt’s message: “Keep Calm and Eat Chocolate.”

It’s:

  1. A small gift, and
  2. She loves chocolate.

She unpacked the t-shirt, took a quick look then set it on the counter – where it remained all weekend.

What happened? In the past, she would have showed interest, said how much she liked it and promptly put it on. But this time zero.

Now the rest of the weekend we spent taking long walks, great conversation, exploring new areas in Minnesota – hanging out together and enjoying each other’s company. Things we’ve always enjoyed

Ever had something similar happen with your sweetheart?

You spent considerable time learning how your sweetheart prefers to be romanced. You’ve “successfully” created multiple Romantic Interludes centered around your sweetheart’s top preference.

One day it dawns on you. Interludes once received enthusiastically have become passé. They no longer have the same appeal.

Has your sweetheart lost interest in romance, or lost interest in you?

Wrong question.

Resist jumping to such a disastrous conclusion. Ask a positive question: Is there a different preference which has become more attractive your sweetheart? Your sweetheart’s preferences may have changed. Maybe they’ve been re-prioritized.

Time to revert to the detective to discover a change in preferences. Observe. Take note. Learn.

Seems my daughter’s preferences have migrated. Time together was always one of her preferences. It may now have elevated to #1.

What previous runner-up preference now stands atop your sweetheart’s preference podium? Answer that question, then modify your Romantic Interludes appropriately.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Romantic Commute

Do you come home so exhausted you don’t take time to romance your sweetheart?  Create a Romantic Interlude on your way home.

If you and your sweetheart commute home about the same time or if one of you is home while the other commutes, invest that time in your relationship.

Before heading home, pick up some flowers, a sweet treat or some other little gift for your sweetheart. When you get in your car, call your sweetheart. Ask about their day. Let your sweetheart know you’re looking forward to being together.

When you walk in the door, give your sweetheart the gift. Your commute will be a great transition to start both your evenings.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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An Elephant and Romance

There’s an elephant in my front room.

A couple weeks ago my 51” TV died. Working one evening. Not a flicker the next morning. I tried all the standard ways of awakening it. Nothing. So I moved it off the TV stand and onto the floor.

Out came my older 32” monitor. Not quite as satisfying and at times difficult to read, but functional. It’ll work while I look for a new TV.

Two weeks later, the dead TV is still on the floor in front of the coat closet.

Several times a day I walk past it. It stares at me while I eat, wondering why I’m ignoring it – a reminder I need to move it out. I’ve put it on my “to do list”, and it remains in my front room.

It’s the elephant I’m trying to ignore.

What’s the elephant of romance in your relationship you’re trying to ignore? You and your sweetheart know it’s there? Is there an elephant-sized lack of romance which needs attention?

There are similarities between our elephants: my TV and your romance.

  • No matter how much we ignore it, it’s still there.
  • Wouldn’t really take much effort to tackle the problem.
  • And our elephants won’t take care of themselves.

The resolution of our elephant situation is so easy a fourth grader could figure it out. Take action!

I need to get my two-wheel dolly into the house and move the TV into the garage, then to a recycle location.

What do you need to do?

Two words – TAKE ACTION!

Determine today to set a Romantic Interlude in motion today and act upon that plan. It won’t happen by itself. Only you can make it so.

The time is now to get my two-wheel dolly and your Romantic Interlude into action.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Do a Little Dance

Music moves people. A song with a bit of rhythm sets your foot, finger or head in motion. I believe people were made to dance.

You don’t have to have great dance skills to enjoy this Romantic Interlude.

Contact a local ballroom dance studio and ask about their wedding-dance special. What you’ll get is a series of lessons that’ll teach you to dance together for one song.

Don’t worry if you don’t have an upcoming ceremony. The studio won’t grill you on that.

The “goal” of this Interlude is to spend time holding each other close, moving with some synchronicity and have fun. Who knows? You might really like it.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Twelve Days of New Years

On the first day of the New Year’s, my true love . . .

Sound confusing, out of season?

The Christmas carol, “The Twelve Days of Christmas” begins, “On the first day of Christmas my true love gave to me, a partridge in a pear tree.”

The song continues reciting the packages the singer gave his/her true love for each of the 12 days of Christmas.

But this isn’t about Christmas. We’re talking about the New Years.

In this time a renewed beginning, many people make New Year’s Resolutions. They create a list of things they’ll do differently this year. It might concern health, financial, relational, or romantic goals.

The reason for parodying the 12 days has to do with keeping your New Year’s Resolutions.

Reportedly, people keep their New Year’s Resolutions on average only 12 days. At that point they may conclude the Resolutions:

  • Aren’t that important, or
  • Don’t align with their preferred lifestyle, or
  • Are unattainable and were created in Fantasyland.

In less than 290 hours, they give up and plop back into the same old routine.

When it comes to Romantic Resolutions, how can you make this year’s different? Set goals which are easily attainable within 1 month, then upgrade your goal.

My suggestion:

  1. Set a goal to determine, or refine your knowledge of, and record your sweetheart’s preferred method of being romanced before Valentine’s day. Even if you’re not 100% certain, make a written note of what you believe that preference to be.
  2. Create a Romantic Interlude for Valentine’s which utilizes this preference.

Doesn’t matter if you’re right or wrong regarding your sweetheart’s preference. Take your best guess. If you’re not 100% accurate, don’t worry. Adjust then create a new Romantic Interlude as your next New Year’s goal.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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