Celebrate Your Togetherness

Talking with a single friend the other day (I’ll call him Tico), he said something that startled me.  

I wonder why couples don’t appreciate their sweetheart. If you watch couples, many of them don’t seem to understand what a gift they have in their sweetheart. “

When I pressed a bit more. He continued. “They have someone to share the good and difficult times of life, someone to share vacations and create memories with, someone to romance. But they don’t seem to value or celebrate that.”

His view on relationships and romance got me to thinking. Do couples truly appreciate their sweetheart, revel in the relationship and celebrate “togetherness”?

You see, years ago Tico went through an extremely difficult divorce. He’s still single, and at times Tico says he feels like he’s on the outside looking in.

Yet his view of the value of a relationship is juxtaposed to many. People seem to take their relationship, their sweetheart for granted.

How can you romance your sweetheart in such a way as to say thank you for the relationship you share?

Here are some ideas.

  • Spend an evening sharing photographic memories of times together.
  • Get a cake and ice cream and celebrate an important date from early in your relationship.
  • Create a cartoon of memories from your first date.
  • Pull together a playlist.

When your Romantic Interlude centers on pleasant reminders of your history together, you deepen those memories and strengthen to ties between you. You remind your sweetheart of why you started and continue this adventure of life together. You romance your sweetheart.

Don’t take your sweetheart for granted. Treasure the one who shares this relationship with you. Remind your sweetheart of how grateful you are she/he is in your life. Like Tico said, romance your sweetheart. Celebrate your togetherness.

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Breadmaking Romantic Interlude

Have you ever made bread? Together?

There’s something about making food together which brings you close. And if you bake something you’ve never tried before and do that together, it becomes a shared adventure.

To make it easier, start this venture by purchasing a bread making machine. You can even find these at thrift stores at a greatly reduced price.

Work together and agree upon a recipe to try. Start putting the ingredients together. Once the machine begins its work, you’ll have time to make a meal or dessert together.

If you’re more adventurous, try making bread without the machine. There’s nothing like freshly baked bread and the memory it’ll create.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Homebound Romantic Interlude

Valentine’s means dressing up for a long, lingering romantic dinner at a great restaurant, strolling down High Street. And a late night coffee shop.

Not this year.

  • No lingering dinners. Restaurants are closed.
  • Wandering down High Street? Masks are no fun.
  • Coffee shops? Don’t want to risk the virus.

What to do on Valentine’s or any Date Night in this pandemic plagued year?

Trade in your tux and gown for comfy clothes and slippers.

Replace an expensive meal with Ma Propre Maison.

Forgo the theatre for home entertainment.

Creating a Romantic Interlude doesn’t mean going out. “Real” romance doesn’t require you to leave home and be entertained.

Romance is doing something for your sweetheart which is special and unique between the two of you, creating a shared memory, and reminding your sweetheart why you fell in love.

That doesn’t take an expensive dinner, a “cultural” evening or even walking out the front door.

An Interlude could be:

  • Looking at photos and reminiscing over a getaway weekend.
  • Sipping wine while watching the stars and fireflies from your back deck. 
  • Baking cookies or creating gift baskets for the residents of a shelter.
  • Creating a virtual vacation to some exotic destination.

It’s doing something out of the ordinary, slowing down the pace of your life, spending relaxed time together and remembering why you’re a couple. The two of you – together.

If you find yourself short on ideas to create an at home Romantic Interlude, research “stay at home date night ideas”. You’ll find millions of results including anywhere from 14 to 40 ideas. And that was just on page 1. That should get you started. Can’t leave home? No problem. You can create a comfy, cozy, intimate Romantic Interlude from that place you call home.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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A Romantic Memory for Now and Forever

Ann planned a Romantic Interlude with her sweetheart Lee. Not the usual “romantic” evening with a limo, a candlelit dinner at Robert’s Romantic Rendezvous, then off to the symphony. She decided to keep it simple.

She drove them to a small family restaurant. Dinner was enjoyable. The setting casual. Conversation relaxed. And about an hour later, they headed to “The Joker’s Wild” an evening of standup comedy.

The last two comics were excellent. Ann and Lee found themselves laughing so uncontrollably, they missed a joke or two.

The ride home was warm. Conversation started off reliving jokes. Soon they found themselves sharing more openly than they had in a while. It was unplanned and unexpected. Intimate. It seemed to just happen.

Why or how would a simple evening turn into an intimate Romantic Interlude?

Well, it didn’t just happen. It wasn’t serendipity or a “magic moment.” It was the result of science and biology.

Dr. Alan Gray’s research found there is a connection between laughter and openness. When we laugh, our body releases endorphins. You’ve heard of them. Those feel-good chemical shots that make us feel beyond happy – sometimes giddy. They also relax us. In that relaxed state, we unknowingly become more open and vulnerable to those we trust and may unknowingly reveal more honest feelings and ideas.

Let me be clear. I’m not promoting an evening planned around manipulating your sweetheart to reveal long kept secrets!

I am suggesting that a Romantic Interlude which includes an opportunity for you and your sweetheart to laugh together can provide unexpected time of openness and closeness. Plan a simple Interlude. Make it a light-hearted evening. Include a comedy club, a funny movie or a humorous play. Let there be honest laughter. You might be surprised that laughter brings closeness – romance.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Sleepover!

Sleepover! Remember doing that as a kid?  Time for a sleepover with your sweetheart.

Put on your PJs, flannel works best. Pull out sleeping bags or blankets. Push back the living room furniture and light the fireplace.

Change things up a bit. Create a breakfast meal for dinner. Pancakes, potatoes and eggs with OJ. Sit on the sleeping bags and watch a comedy. Pull out some board games and cookies. Tell bad jokes and giggle.

As you wind down, crawl into your sleeping bags and sleep in the front room.

In the morning, fix pizza and s’mores for breakfast. What happens beyond that is up to the two of you.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Romantic Oasis

Riding the Eurostar between London’s St. Pancras and Paris’ Gare du Nord stations, life speeds by at up to 300 kph/186 mph. Automobiles appear to travel backwards, electric poles are a blur and houses merge one into the next.

Does your life seem like a never-ending Eurostar train? Blink your eyes and it’s Monday again.

Life at this speed devastates our romantic life.

Most think weekends are the best time for romancing our sweetheart. There’s time for a nice Romantic Interlude. Trouble is, we leave for work Monday morning, escape Friday afternoon, and suddenly the Monday morning alarm starts it all again.

Where did the weekend go? Where does our romance go?

Here’s a simple, uncomplicated romantic idea which can fit into your tumultuous life.

Plan a midweek romantic oasis.

Meet your sweetheart for a quick meal away from home. Maybe a burger at Burger World, soup and salad at Salads and Crowder, or a couple slices of pizza at some hole-in-the-wall eatery.

Here’s what’s great about this romantic oasis.

  • Doesn’t take much time – maybe 45 minutes.
  • No preparation or clean up. And,
  • It gives the two of you a few moments to connect.

This romantic oasis doesn’t require much in the way of planning. Maybe fifteen minutes or less from planning to enjoying each other’s company.

It’s such a refreshing moment together, almost like a vacation, an oasis in the middle of your work week. And as you linger in these moments together, you touch (physically and/or emotionally) and relax in each other’s company.

Next Tuesday or Wednesday, call up your sweetheart and ask to meet at a certain eatery or coffee shop. Take 45 minutes to linger over a slice or two of pizza. You’ll be amazed how this romantic oasis can lift your week.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Letter Writing Romance

In this age of txt msgs, Viber, Telegram and other messaging apps, letter writing has become a lost art. Yet which would you keep longer: a printout of an electronic message or a handwritten letter?

I keep those occasional letters.

There’s something special about receiving a piece of paper on which your sweetheart took time to memorialize their affections for you – with a pen.

Touch your sweetheart’s soul this week. Write a letter telling your sweetheart why you’re glad he/she is in your life. Doesn’t’ have to be lengthy. Doesn’t need to be eloquent. But let it be open and honest.

It will be cherished.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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A Good Romantic Sermon? Or a Bad Romantic Sermon?

Robert, when I read your Romantic Memo, it seems you’re preaching at me.”

 

The comment was quite unexpected. Though I did preach one sermon years ago, I don’t fancy myself a preacher. That’s not my calling.

 

After a moment’s hesitation, I asked, “Was it a good sermon or a bad sermon?”

It was a Mastercard moment. The look on his face was priceless. He didn’t expect that response.

Over the years, I‘ve heard “good” sermons and “bad” sermons. Many of us have endured interminable 15-minute sermons and over-too-soon hour-long sermons. What is the difference between a “good” sermon and a “bad” sermon? And what does that have to do with romance or this Romantic Memo?

Again, I don’t claim to be a preacher. I would, however, suggest there are similarities between a sermon and these Memos.

A “good” sermon:

  • Is relevant to things happening in my life.
  • Stays on topic, saying what it means to say and then stopping.
  • Has life, and includes stories & illustrations (the non-braggart personal ones are best).
  • Lingers in my thoughts long after the final amen.

And whether I consider it a “good” sermon or a “bad” one usually is more a reflection of how it impacts and speaks to me. And whether or not I feel condemned by what I hear.

As I sit down each week and write these Memos, my goal is always to:

  • Encourage you to find ways to bring more romance into your relationship.
  • Provide you with Romantic Interlude ideas.
  • Stimulate new and different ways of thinking about romance.
  • Maybe a bit entertaining.

If you feel these Romantic Memos are “preachy”, maybe you could consider why it feels that way to you. My goal is to encourage and inspire – and preach a “good” sermon.

Amen

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Flowers for the Guy?

Flowers are for romancing women. Stereotypically, you give flowers to the lady, especially red roses, and that’s romantic. But, what about flowers for a guy?

Create a 10-word phrase expressing your love for “your guy”. Write each word on a sticky note and place each note with single flowers scattered throughout the house.

When he comes home, hand him a single flower. Tell him there are 10 more like it for him to find.

After he’s found all 10, lead him to #12. This one contains a love coupon which he can redeem now or in the future.

And if you can’t bring yourself to buy him flowers, use a fruit bouquet.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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A Trusty Steed, An Original Poem, A Failed Romantic Interlude

Sunday night and Joaquin was worried. This Tuesday night he was to create a Romantic Interlude for Sara.

Here’s the story. Joaquin and Sara agreed that for 2 consecutive Tuesday nights, one would create a Romantic Interlude for the other. He won the coin toss and deferred. Sara created the first Interlude.

Last Tuesday, Sara dressed alluringly in an outfit that seemed to float in the slightest breeze. At sunset, she led him into a wonderland she created in their backyard: pixie lights, George Winston’s (his favorite artist) drifting on the evening air, candlelit table for two displaying dinner of gnocchi al pesto and cannolis from Angelo’s.

It was a Florence-esque fairytale setting – nice but not something he really enjoyed.

Back to Sunday evening. An idea finally sparked in Joaquin. He was good with words and would pen a poem about their relationship. He’d use Brush Calligraphy Script font to print it out on parchment from “A Time To Write”. He’d top it off with a playlist of love songs by Andre Bocelli (her favorite).

His words created this ideal Romantic Interlude – that left her feeling let down and bored.

  • Where did each go wrong?
  • Why wasn’t the other swept away with the Interlude?
  • What happened to the romantic evening?

Sara wanted a magical moment: Joaquin figuratively sweeping her off her feet, the white knight on his muscular steed.

Joaquin wanted Sara to tell him what he meant to her, how much she valued the relationship and how much she enjoyed this moment.

Each created a Romantic Interlude they would enjoy without considering what their sweetheart would appreciate.

When you create Romantic Interludes, create them for your sweetheart, for what your sweetheart would like. Focus on your sweetheart. It’ll create an Interlude your sweetheart will relish.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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