What is romance?
Canvass your family and friends. You’ll get a variety of responses.
- Some talk about flowers, chocolates, Valentine’s and stuff like that.
- Some laugh nervously and hint about “getting lucky”.
- Others stare at their shoes, shrug their shoulders and maybe grunt.
There is a plethora of definitions in dictionaries and online. They only serve to confuse.
For over 20 years I’ve been researching and studying the how’s and why’s of relational romance. I regularly explore the current ideas people have on romance. Ideas of what’s romantic change over time.
Decades ago, romance was more formal. You might say expectations were lower. Men romanced women with flowers, chocolates and evening walks – end of story.
Move forward and you find expectations for “romance” expand beyond flowers and moonlit walks. Men were expected to “creatively romance” their lady. Moving forward another few years and now women were expected to romance men – even sending flowers or chocolates. Currently, romance is amazing experiences, Twitter-worthy boasts and deep connections created by either partner.
Interestingly, the need for and the underlying principle of romance in a love relationship hasn’t changed much. People may define romance with different words, but the common ideas of relationship-building romance can be synthesized to this.
Romance is doing something thoughtful, often unexpected, and unique between the two of you, which your sweetheart appreciates. It reminds your sweetheart he’s/she’s cherished and why they fell in love with you.
Every romantic gesture you make, every Romantic Interlude you create has at its center something you’d only do for your sweetheart and reminders of why you’re both in this relationship. It i important that it’s appreciated by your sweetheart and creates a special, shared memory.
I challenge you. Sometime in the next 7 days, create a Romantic Interlude which meets the above definition for romancing your sweetheart.
Robert, a hopeless romantic
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