Atlanta is home to the Historic Oakland Cemetery. It is a classic old cemetery from the late 1800’s with family plots, well known residents, unknown Confederate soldiers, huge tombstones and mausoleums.
This past Sunday my sweetheart and I went on the guided “Love Stories of Oakland” tour.
The tour guide pointed out tombstones with sculptures signifying the love the residents had for each other. There were loving inscriptions and stories about lovers and scoundrels.
To start the tour the guide asked for someone’s definition of love.
The lady who volunteered to answer the question put her arms around her sweetie and announced love was his ability to put up with her for 30-some years.
WOW! What a sad commentary on their relationship. She saw love as him “putting up with her” for several decades.
Why didn’t she talk about the way he massages her neck and hands when she’s tired.
Or maybe how they share Saturday morning coffees relaxing and holding hands.
She might have talked about him surprising her with a card secreted into her purse.
Instead, he has “put up with her” since disco was popular.
They need is some romance in that relationship!!
The romance I talk about in “Growing Romance” will bring a dance to the eyes when he talks about the relationship. It will keep the relationship alive. It will set it apart from other relationships that just exist.
So I challenge you to make your relationship more than “putting up with each other”. Put romance into your relationship. Don’t let its specialness s-l-o-w-l-y f-a-d-e into monotony.
By the way, I think their relationship was more than what she said. I watch their interaction through the rest of the tour. They held hands. They hugged. They shared some inside laughs.
At least I hope it was much more.
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