I’d bet you have an insane romantic idea, something a little unexpected.
- Maybe you’d like to “kidnap” your sweetheart for a picnic lunch.
- Maybe you’d like to surprise your sweetheart by planning a weekend getaway, packing his/her suitcase, picking your sweetheart up and taking off.
- Maybe you’d like to send flowers to your sweetheart at work…and deliver them yourself.
You think about it. You plan it. You get excited about it.
Then you chicken out – procrastinate.
Why? Why would you miss out romancing your sweetheart in a new and different way?
Maybe you fear rejection – not appreciated and criticized.
I was reading an article from the American Psychiatric Association about this fear. The nerves and anxieties we feel about trying something that might be rejected has far-reaching impacts on our lives and relationship.
We fear this change of routine will be rejected – we’ll be rejected.
Consequently we miss out on something magical.
Is there a cure?
Probably not, but there is a way to approach it.
My sweetheart and I recently watched the video, “We Bought A Zoo.”
OK. It was Saturday night and I was exhausted from the energy I put into the church band I play in on Saturday afternoons.
In the movie, son has a crush on girl. Father tries to help son. His suggestion.
” Sometimes all you need is 20 seconds of insane courage. Just literally 20 seconds of just embarrassing bravery.”
If you will just try something new for just 20 seconds, something you fear might be rejected, you will be surprised at the positive response from your sweetheart.
So try it. Think of some crazy way you’d like to romance your sweetheart. Commit to sticking with it for only 20 seconds and see what happens.
After all, it’s only 20 seconds of insane courage.
Let me know about your “insane” romantic ideas you tried out with the 20 seconds. Robert