Feel like going to work today?
Feel like exercising this morning?
Feel like waiting for the light turned green?
I’ll bet you answered “no” to some or all of these questions.
You and I often don’t “feel” like doing things.
Sometimes we don’t feel like romancing our sweetheart. We don’t feel romantic towards him/her.
So we force ourselves to do them anyway – ’cause it’s the right thing to do.
What a way to live – forcing ourselves to do what we don’t feel like doing.
Have you considered a different approach?
Instead of waiting to feel, proactively ask yourself what are the benefits of doing these things: Income. Health. Your life.
Don’t feel like romancing your sweetheart? Ask a different question:
What might happen if I set aside an hour this weekend to go for a walk with my sweetheart?
How might my sweetheart feel if I put my arms around him/her and hugged them?
What effect might I see in my relationship if I told my sweetheart 5 times tomorrow that I love him/her and value this relationship?
If I brought home a small gift or flowers, how would my sweetheart’s face change?
This view changes our approach to romancing our sweetheart.
When I take the focus off myself and what I feel like doing, and put the focus on my sweetheart and how she’ll feel by intentionally romancing her, it changes me.
And I love:
Her reaction to my romantic gestures.
To watch her forget the pains of her day and enjoy our moment.
To see the unique difference I can make in her day.
Suddenly how I feel doesn’t matter. Romancing becomes a privilege.
And in that moment our relationship changes.
That’s the magic of the Platinum Rule of Romance.