Romance is Not A Couple’s Responsibility

Fact. Romance is not the responsibility of the couple.

You might find that a strange idea for someone who writes about and promotes keeping romance alive. But it’s true. Romance is not the responsibility of the couple.

Are you familiar with the term “village common”?

A common is land owned by one person, but shared with everybody. Historically, people were given rights to graze livestock, collect firewood and enjoyed socializing on the village common.

Great idea.

The trouble with a common is everyone uses it and no one takes care of it – no one takes responsibility for keeping it up. Ultimately it becomes neglected, an overgrown rubbish pile.

What has a common to do with romance?

If it’s up to the couple to keep romance alive in the relationship, no one’s responsible to keep romance alive.

  • Nothing happens until some one takes responsibility.
  • Romance dies unless some one keeps it alive.

What would happen to your relationship if both waited until both did something?

  • Would you ever go on a vacation?
  • Would you go out to eat?
  • Would you celebrate your anniversary?


All of those things take place because one person initiates the action.

There will be no romance in your relationship until some one takes action to romance the other.

So it’s the other person’s responsibility, right?


It’s your responsibility.

  • You must initiate romance in the relationship.
  • Each of you must practice the Platinum Rule of Romance.

Only then will you, as a couple, keep romance alive in the relationship.

Want to have fun keeping romance alive in your relationship? See who will be first to romance the other.



About RomanceALIVE

Helping people grow relationships via romance. Been studying, researching, observing what is romance and how to be romantic since the 90's.
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1 Response to Romance is Not A Couple’s Responsibility

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