“So you’re saying I have to ‘dress up’ to be romantic.”
“Robert, is it realistic to say I need to look totally GQ in order to romance my sweetheart? I can’t be romantic in jeans?”
“You telling me I have the wrong wardrobe for romance?”
Feedback indicates some of you heard this. And if that’s what you heard, I created a breakdown in communication.
If you read my book, attended a seminar or listen to one of my recordings, you’ll know I consistently talk about the importance of accurate communication. This is especially true if your sweetheart values being romanced with words.
If the words I use have a different meaning to you than what I meant, communication doesn’t happen. Romance gets lost in translation.
Dressing for Romance – take 2.
You can be romantic dressed for a black-tie dinner. You can be romantic in cutoffs and a t-shirt. There’s no one-size-fits-all romantic-suit or gown you can buy.
Dressing romantically is situational.
Recently I suggested romancing your sweetheart by flying a kite. This is romance by having fun. Couples need to play together. If you fly a kite in formal wear, it could distract from creating romance by having fun.
Hmmmm . . . .
I’m sitting here chuckling. “Dressing up” to go kite flying might actually create a moment that would live in infamy in your relationship. It also fits part of my definition of romance:
“A special moment that enhances the relationship
in a way that is unique between the couple
and leaves a special memory.”
We took an unexpected turn in this post, yet we’ll end up at the same destination.
To dress romantically:
- dress for your sweetheart – attractively and neatly;
- dress comfortably – so your sweetheart feels relaxed with you;
- dress intentionally – to deliberately create this special, romantic moment together.
The key is this: make it all about your sweetheart.
Hope this helped clarify my communication. Robert
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