If you could see my sweetheart right now, you’d see a smirk on her face. It’s an inside joke which started while watching the movie, “Up”. Remember this movie?
The main character, Carl Fredricksen, had created a special collar which allows Dug to speak to humans. Dug is a dog. And dogs are easily distracted.
In the middle of a sentence, Dug will look sideways and yell, “Squirrel!”
And like Dug, I’ve been known to get distrac . . . Squirrel!
It’s not just dogs. People are easily distracted. Here’s proof.
According to a 2013 Mobile Consumer Habits study, people can’t stay away from their smartphones. Of the people studied:
12% used their smartphones in the shower;
19% used them during church;
33% checked their phones during a dinner date.
Talk about not giving your sweetheart your attention.
Oh, it gets worse.
An amazing 9% of the respondents admitted using their smartphones during moments of “physical intimacy”. And . . . a whopping 20% of adults in their “peak years” (18-34), admitted using them during these intimate moments.
Romance isn’t dead. It’s distracted!
If you can’t put your phone down in church, on a date or . . ., how can you give your sweetheart the attention for romance?
I admitted I’m easily distracted. This has proved to be detrimental to my relationship with my sweetheart. Occasionally I get my chops busted.
So what to do to counteract the pull of distractions?
- Acknowledge your distractedness is damaging your relationship;
- Decide to spend 30 minutes of concentrated time with your sweetheart;
- Find a quiet place, mostly free from distractions;
I have to turn off the TV, the phone. Walk away from the computer.
Do whatever it takes to be as distraction free as possible.
- Repeat regularly.
Your sweetheart knows you’re easily distracted. And when you work to concentrate on romancing her/him, your effort goes twice as far and means twice as much.
For goodness sakes, turn off the phone!