“Sweetheart, I’d like to thank you for five wonderful years together.”
“Honey, We’ve been together over 15 years.”
“I know, and I’d like to thank you for five wonderful years together . . . .”
Can you identify with that conversion? Sometimes being together isn’t really being together.
One of the four major ways of romancing your sweetheart is with time. Some people would bypass gifts, touch and words because spending time with you is the best way to be romance.
If your sweetheart prefers being romanced with time, being romantic to your sweetheart is easiest and hardest:
- Easiest – it doesn’t cost you financially;
- Hardest – life is full of distractions.
It’s easy to say you’ll go for a walk with your sweetheart. It’s challenging to carry through on that pledge and carve 30 minutes out of your weekend.
It’s easy to start working in the garden with your sweetheart and hard to stay there. Distractions abound: I need a drink of water . . . and there’s a call I really should make . . . and I might have an email . . . and . . . squirrel.
Your intention is to give your sweetheart time. You start off well. Then it goes pear shape.
When distractions abound, when the demands of life command your time, when another week vanishes into memory and the gift remains un-given, here are some suggestions to help you carry through.
- Tell your sweetheart you’d like to spend time with him/her alone.
- Set a 30-minute appointment with your sweetheart.
- Make specific plans: a walk in a park, a ride outside of town, stargazing on a blanket.
- Remove as many distractions as possible: phones, radio, tablets.
- Guard the time jealously.
Then your sweetheart will enjoy 7 or 7 wonderful years together, instead of 5 of 15.