A friend recently suggested I read “The Oz Principle” by Connors, Smith and Hickman.
The authors compare the results of their research with the story of “The Wizard of Oz”.
In L. Fran Baum’s story, Dorothy meets several residents of Oz who would have a wonderful life if only . . . the lion had a heart, the scarecrow a brain, the . . . . Each lives as a victim because they need someone to give them something to make their life complete.
“The book recounts a journey towards awareness; and from the beginning of their journey, the story’s main characters gradually learn that they (already) possess the power within themselves to get the results they want.”
Victims, blaming others for their sad little lives.
They learn they already have the power to achieve whatever they want if they accept responsibility for their own life.
The trio of authors point out how people (and companies) fail when they place blame instead of being accountable for themselves.
It’s easy to think,
- “I’d be more attractive if only I more money”; or
- “I’d have a great relationship if only we took more vacations”; or
- “I’d be a wonderful romantic if only my father/mother had taught me”.
Truth is, I wasn’t taught to be a romantic by my parents. Romance wasn’t their forte.
Dorothy always had those red slippers. She could have clicked her heels and been back in Kansas anytime she wanted.
All she had to do was:
- Quit waiting for someone else to give her something;
- Take responsibility for herself;
- Act on what she already had.
Like Dorothy, you already have what you need to be a wonderful romantic.
Do what Dorothy didn’t do.
- Stop blaming others, waiting to have someone else to fix you;
- Accept responsibility for being romantic;
- Take action.
It’ll make your relationship different – and probably better. Robert