A couple weeks ago my sweetheart and I walked past a local pet store. Have you ever noticed the pets in the window? I’m sure you have.
We went inside.
The living fur bushes with innocent, daddy-can-I pleading eyes are like magnets to that something inside us wanting to pick one up and envelop it in your arms.
They’re so cute and adorable. And the store knows how to make sure you’ll stop, for just a minute, stroke one, and picture how much fun you’d have when you take home a kitty or puppy or bunny or . . . .
“And you know what the trouble is”, my sweetheart observed. “They grow up.”
It happens every day of the year.
A little puppy is adopted. He’s cuddled and held against your face. But his endless energy and yapping and needing to be taken out and feeding and vet visits – become less attractive.
One day you wish he’d wander off.
Romance sometimes works like the little puppy.
At first you’re constantly looking for ways to romance your sweetheart. It’s exciting! You romance your sweetheart with a new CD or writing a love email or talking for hours on the phone.
Then romance starts to become a burden.
- Being romantic takes more intentional thought.
- Your sweetheart doesn’t react like she/he did just a few years ago.
- You might even resent having to do this romantic stuff.
One day you start hoping they’ll wander off.
How do you keep romance alive, through those feelings of resentment we all feel?
- Find your sweetheart’s preferred way to be romanced. This is the mostly likely way to get the response from your sweetheart you enjoy witnessing.
- Make a game of finding a new way to romance your sweetheart every month.
- Intentionally commit to the relationship.
Don’t just endure your relationship. Let it grow up and keep it alive with romance. Robert