The brain of a computer, the microprocessor, can only do one task at a time.
By sharing the processor’s time, rotating between tasks many times a second, computer engineers discovered a computer could appear to perform several tasks concurrently. In 1965 the world was introduced to “multitasking”.
The human brain works the same way. It can only successfully focus on one task at a time. The brain lacks the capability to effectively switch focus rapidly between tasks. In humans, multitasking doesn’t really work.
Psychiatrist Edward M. Hallowell described multitasking in human as a
“mythical activity in which people believe they can perform two or more tasks simultaneously as effectively as one.”
I’ll admit to having been annoyed at people attempting to multitask.
I’m behind them in the check-out line as they attempt to put their groceries on the belt, keep the kids away from the candy, while talking on the phone?
Ever been the person on the other end of that “conversation”?
Did you feel:
- Like the person really wanted to converse with you?
I’ll go one step beyond Dr. Hallowell.
Romance doesn’t work in a relationship built on multitasking your sweetheart into your life. Multitasking your relationship results in only partial attention, where no one ever feels they’re important to you.
What your relationship and your sweetheart need are periods of your concentrated attention.
Instead of tiny pieces of unfulfilling attention, create several blocks of time each week to focus on one thing – your sweetheart. During each block of time, give your sweetheart at least 15 minutes of concentrated attention.
You can make that time very special by romancing your sweetheart in the way she/he wants to be romanced.
Just as I can’t write these articles while attempting to multitask, you really can’t romance your sweetheart while multitasking.
Hold it. My sweetie’s calling. Must stop so I don’t try to multitask her. Robert