Playing at Romance

One of the readers of my weekly Romantic memos is responsible for this blog. When I received Addie’s idea , I changed what I was going to blog about.

I’ll bet Addie plays in her relationship. In a minute, you’ll probably agree.

Playing is important to keeping your relationship and romance alive. My sweetheart highly values spending time together, especially playing together and having a good laugh.

Play can do for your relationship what an icebreaker does at a party.

Life is stressful. You came home and the stress from your individual and collective lives comes with you. After your greeting(s), your conversation seems to revolve around things that took place during your day. This or that frustrated you. You let off steam as you share these frustrations.

Then it happens.

One of you says, “I thought he’d turn green”.
The other comes back with, “Just imagine if the purple steam coming out of his nostrils!
Another retort, and laughter begins to punctuate the conversation.

Before you know it, the conversation has taken on an entirely new feeling.

Playfulness helped the couple transition from the stress of everyday life to a positive, comfortable feeling with each other. Play opened the door for relaxation and enjoyment of each other’s company.

According to Lawrence Robinson, Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jeanne Segal, Ph.D. at, play in adults:

  • Relieves stress;
  • Improves brain function;
  • Helps us learn to trust and feel safe with one another;
  • Improves the relationship and your connection;
  • Keeps you feeling young and energetic.

You don’t have to wait for some serendipitous event to occur to introduce play into your relationship. You can intentionally initiate this playfulness into your relationship.

By making a conscious effort to incorporate more humor and play into your relationship, you can improve the quality of and romance in your relationship.

Imagine looking forward to spending time playing and romancing together. It can be fun. Robert

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Helping people grow relationships via romance. Been studying, researching, observing what is romance and how to be romantic since the 90's.
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