Do you believe your own press? Many of us do.
The phrase “don’t believe your own press” originated about those hiring publicity agents. These agents were paid to make sure wonderful, fantastic reviews were written about actors and athletes, politicians and musicians.
The actor would read a publicist-originated review which, with manufactured compliments, exaggerated a particular performance as brilliant. The actor would believe the press the writers had been paid to print, no matter their true ability.
These inflated images can also be self-created by people who have no actual “press”. You can create your own “press”.
In fact we do it every day. And this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. We should show ourselves in the best way possible.
The trap is we are more likely to create negative press about ourselves and even more likely to believe that press.
Have you ever heard someone (yourself) say:
- I’m just not very romantic.
- I don’t know how to romance my sweetheart.
- I can’t seem to come up with romantic ideas.
- Romance – spomance.
Every time you say something like that to anyone, especially to yourself or your sweetheart, you’re creating your own press, reinforcing the negative press. Say it enough times and you’ll start believing your own press.
Time to counteract this tendency. Time to change your press.
Here’s some suggestions:
- Next time you do something romantic for your sweetheart, remind yourself out loud what you did.
- Next time you hear yourself say something like, “I’m not romantic,” immediately add, “BUT I’m learning to become romantic.
You have the power to write or rewrite your own press.
When you control what you say about you in your own press, you use your own press to your advantage.
I invite you to share “your press” with me. Robert