“We’ve been together too long.“
You’ve probably heard someone say that. Recently I heard someone use this excuse for the lack of romance in a relationship.
It was a weekend getaway. One person got caught up in a futbol/soccer match on TV, completely ignoring the other. The second person said, “We’ll, I’ll be upstairs when you’re done.”
“Guess your sweetheart heard about it later,” I commented.
“No, we’ve been together too long for that.”
That bothered me. It sounds like the amount of romance in a relationship is inversely proportional to the length of the relationship. The longer together, the less romance
In long term relationships, you get comfortable with each other and may accept mediocrity. Spontaneity, especially in romancing each other, is replaced with apathy.
Being comfortable with each other is important. But when you let romance drift into hazy memories, your relationship may not be comfortable. It may be stagnant.
Next time you sense yourself excusing lack of romance by saying or thinking, “guess we’ve been together too long”, ask yourself:
- Do I miss romance in our relationship?
- How is the loss of romance affecting our relationship?
Then take action.
- Let your sweetheart know you miss romance in your relationship.
- Tell your sweetheart you’d like to work together to ignite some romantic sparks.
- Invite your sweetheart to join with you to actively re-create romance.
Instead of “we’ve been together too long” as a sad excuse, let it translate, “we’ve been together so long and we keep finding ways to keep romance alive!”
How long have you been together with your sweetheart? I’d like to know. Robert