Are you a rule follower?
When I was young, my life seemed to be defined by rules:
- Do this.
- Don’t do that.
- What will people think of you
My parents were good parents, very good people. I was given a strong sense of right & wrong. It just seemed life was delimited by rules for what I should and shouldn’t do.
Maybe you identify with this.
Rules are good. We need them for society.
But when we allow rules to totally control our lives, we stagnate.
- Life doesn’t have a rule for every situation and everything you encounter;
- And romance doesn’t have rules for every opportunity to romance your sweetheart.
Life and romance work best with guidelines, not rigid rules.
If you think romance only means:
- Buying roses;
- Taking your sweetheart to dinner;
- A drive along the beach every Friday night;
and never move beyond those ideas, romance in your relationship will be restricted and will become stale – a rut.
Each of these ideas is romantic. But romance is so much more. It needs new ideas, different ways of romancing, mistakes and successes.
Keeping romance alive requires taking risks on ideas which may not necessarily fall into previously learned rules and routines.
If you’re like me and find it easy to fall into the living-by-rules rut, you can take your relationship beyond good to great by being open to new ideas for romance which may not follow the rules for romance you’ve learned. You might find something unexpected is very romantic.
Time to take your relationship out of the box. Robert