Recently I encouraged you: Never give up! Never surrender!
This is a great mantra – most of the time.
Sometimes it may not best for romance.
If you have repeatedly tried to romance your sweetheart in one particular manner and your sweetheart’s response is negative, maybe it’s time to change.
Let’s say you invited your sweetheart to go for an evening stroll, just the two of you. While your sweetheart has smiled and thanked you, you know he/she didn’t really enjoyed it.
Putting the Never Give Up mantra to work, you conclude it must have been too warm or chilly for your sweetheart. You wait for a temperate evening and again invite your sweetheart for an evening stroll. The outcomes is the same.
So you figure it must be where you walk that’s causing the failure. Changing the route only leaves you with the same results.
One of the definitions of insanity is doing the same thing over and over while expecting different results.
If you’ve repeated the same romantic idea or theme a couple times and the outcome doesn’t change, maybe it’s time to change the approach. Maybe it’s time to try something completely different.
The key is knowing when repeating is persistence and when it’s insanity. Here’s my suggested approach.
You know your sweetheart. You know his/her preferred way of being romanced (words, touch, gifts, time). To decide between persistence and insanity:
- Review your romantic idea and see if it fits with your sweetheart’s preferred way of being romanced.
- Question if the idea actually fits your preference instead of your sweetheart’s.
- Ask yourself, “Is there is another reason my sweetheart responded negatively?”
As you analyze what’s happened, trust your knowledge of your sweetheart and the answer to these three questions. Take a moment, then decide which is best: persist or change direction. Robert