More than once, I’ve attempted to create a Romantic Interlude with my sweetheart and failed spectacularly.
If you’ve been to a Romance Alive Experience event, you’ve heard me disclose these debacles. Mr. Romance here did something I thought was romantic and she didn’t.
Recently I heard seminal entertainer Kenny Rogers in concert. In his show he sang “Buy Me A Rose”, the story of a couple whose relational expectations are out of sync.
- What he gives (long work hours so she can have money and security), she isn’t looking for.
- What she wants (a little romance), he doesn’t give her.
As I listened to the words of this story, two things came to mind:
- He gave her things he thought she wanted, without finding out what was important to her.
- She wanted him to read her mind and know what she wanted, but never took the risk of sharing her desires with him.
And the more that he lives the less that he tries,
To show her the love that he holds inside.
And the more that she gives the more that he sees
This is a story of you and me.
If you identify with the words of the song, it’s time to:
- Ask your sweetheart what’s romantic to her/him, and,
- Share with your sweetheart what’s romantic to you.
The guy in the song 1) loved his sweetheart deeply, like you do yours, 2) wanted more in his relationship, and 3) didn’t give up and quit.
As the song comes to an end, the relationship changes.
- He bought her a rose, which opened her heart.
- He looked deep in her eyes, and
- Held her for the rest of her life.
Ask your sweetheart what he/she wants.
Tell your sweetheart what you want.
Then let romance grow ‘till your good relationship become great.
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