Romantic Words & Communications

It was a warm Sunday afternoon. We’d wandered through booths of jewelry and corn dogs, watched costumed characters and fire-eaters at the hot air balloon festival.

As the sun disappeared behinds the stands, electric fans began forcing air into the cavernous interiors of half-dozen hot air balloons laid out flat on the soccer pitch. Suddenly flames from butane burners roared to life, heating the air inside the balloons. The balloons grew into Pepe Le Pew, a multi-armed monster, a pumpkin and other gigantic shapes.

Under the darkened sky, flames from the burners set the balloons aglow. Lights and lasers lit the skin of the balloons, drawing shapes of fantasy characters. My daughter, my sweetheart and I captured image after image on cameras.

After an hour, my daughter turned to me and said, “What the deuce? Aren’t the balloons taking off?

Evidentially that’s not the plan,” I told her. “They’re filled with hot air just for the light show.

What a letdown! They built this up for nothing.

The poster proclaimed the event as a hot air balloon festival and “balloon glow”.

  • The organizer’s meant “grounded balloons glowing under the light show”.
  • My daughter heard “glowing balloons floating in the night sky”.

There was a disconnect!

In “Growing Romance” I spend a chapter discussing the use of words to romance your sweetheart. For words to successfully romance, the message spoken by the “hearer” and heard by the “speaker” must harmonize. If you say something romantic and your sweetheart hears something  different, romance doesn’t happen.

When using words to romance your sweetheart, you can avoid a disconnect by:

  1. Remembering what specific words mean to your sweetheart,
  2. Choosing words you believe your sweetheart will interpret as your message,
  3. Correcting the disconnect, if your sweetheart doesn’t hear what you meant.

Words can be romancers. Follow these steps so your communication doesn’t end in a disconnect. Robert

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