Often I’m asked, “Robert, what’s a romantic idea I could use with my sweetheart?”
Hopefully I’ve talked with the person for a couple minutes so I have some insights into their relationship and preferred ways of being romanced. Where possible, I want to give an answer customized for them.
Upon sharing the idea, I often get one of these responses:
- “That’s a great idea. I think I’ll try it.” Or,
- “That’s probably a good idea but it won’t work for me.”
Which would be your response?
- Anticipation that trying something new or different will end badly, or
- Expectation of a positive outcome?
If you anticipate it probably won’t work for you, assume it might work for others but not in your relationship, you’ll be right.
If, on the other hand, you expect this idea will work for you and your relationship, you’re also right.
Your expectations of the outcome, of how you think your sweetheart will respond, greatly impacts the romance in your relationship.
When you anticipate a negative response to your romantic gestures, it:
- Changes how you try to romance your sweetheart.
- Reduces the number of times you’ll try to romance your sweetheart and the number of different ways you try to romance him/her.
When you expect your sweetheart will respond positively to your romantic gesture, you’ll:
- Boldly romance your sweetheart.
- Give non-verbal cues that you know this romantic idea will work.
- Romance your sweetheart more frequently and in a greater variety of ways.
If you decide to try one of the ideas I share on this blog, your sweetheart will know how you expect it will turn out – even before you start the Interlude.
Wouldn’t it be more beneficial to your relationship to expect a positive outcome? Robert