Our conversation about romance wasn’t going well. Every idea I suggested for romancing his sweetheart he countered with a reason, an excuse.
Exasperated, he blurted out, “It’s just I don’t have a romantic bone in my body.”
I responded, “Neither do I.”
He uncrossed his arms and scrunched his eyebrows in disbelief. “You’re the romance guy, how can you say you don’t have a romantic bone in your body?”
“Because it’s true. It’s also true you and I share the same source for romantic ideas, and it’s not in our bones.”
All of us share the same source for romantic ideas – our cranium. It’s where romantic ideas originate and where they’re refined. We all have the physical capabilities to create romantic ideas.
We weren’t born with a romance bone or genes.
As a young kid, I didn’t have romantic ideas. What I thought was romance was that yucky stuff I saw on TV. As a teenager, girls and dating became interesting. I did what I thought was romantic in order to attract girls. It was rather kludgey and self-centered.
As I matured, romantic trial-and-error, combined with observations of others, helped shift my focus from how to get a girl to how to create special moments to enhance our relationship. In time I learned:
- What really is romantic.
- Romance is about my sweetheart, about us.
- How to give the gift of romance.
Learning how to be romantic required:
- Stretching my mind to recognize opportunities for romance,
- Training my thoughts to catch those opportunities, and
- Disciplining my brain to follow through with action.
Don’t worry if you don’t have a romantic bone in your body. You’re in good company. Romance comes from your mind. With a bit of work and exercise, yours will help you become more romantic. Robert
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