It’s easy to make changes, difficult to stay changed. Every year, millions of people resolve to make changes, and find it difficult to stay changed.
People resolve to change by:
- Growing a retirement fund;
- Exercising more;
- Losing weight;
- Becoming more romantic.
They leap out of the starting blocks on a race to make their changes.
- One week goes by (I can do this!!).
- Two weeks go by (I’m sure I can make it work!).
- A couple more weeks go by (What was I thinking?).
We know what Forbes chronicled in 2013: only 8% will make those changes last.
Change is not easy.
Interested in beating the odds?
Let’s say you want to change to become the romantic your sweetheart desires. This goal will create a more rewarding relationship for you and your sweetheart.
Step One: Make a simple goal.
This is not an extreme makeover. Make your goal for change something you really believe you can reach. In our example, the goal could be doing something romantic twice in the next 30 days. That’s attainable.
Step Two: Be specific and concrete.
Write down exactly what you’re going to do. Maybe it’s giving your sweetheart an hour of your time in a quiet setting without distractions, especially if time’s his/her preferred way of being romanced.
Step Three: Make the commitment to change public.
Share your goal with a trusted friend, someone who wants you to succeed. Once a week, update them of your progress or stumbles.
Step Four: Keep a written record of your progress.
You know you want more romance in your life. I know you can achieve that goal. Start today by answering these questions:
- What is your goal for change?
- What will you do to keep yourself on track?
Take the first steps outlined above. Increase the change. Repeat.
You can make changes to boost the romance in your life and enrich your relationship. Robert