Romancing With Words

My friend Georg (yes, that’s how he spells his name), earns income writing and arranging words. For a couple years he shared a weekly Andy Rooney-ish surveillance of life, The Joyful Curmudgeon. He has a way of taking the same English language words you and I use and arranging them into a picture-creating, thought-provoking series of sentences.

To Georg, words are important. It wouldn’t be difficult to deduce that words are his preferred way to be romanced.

Are words your sweetheart’s romantic preference?

Not sure? Consider this.

  • Does your sweetheart ever tire of hearing, “I love you”?
  • Does he/she take time to read all the words in a card you give, even if the words are voluminous?
  • Are terms of endearment important to your sweetheart?

There are many ways to perceive if your sweetheart’s romantic preference is with words but I’ve a self-imposed limit on how many I’ll put in a blog.

If your sweetheart’s preference is to be romanced with words, research by Professor James W. Pennebaker from the University of Texas Austin could prove useful.

Professor Pennebaker analyzed words people used in dating. He discovered that the more similar the language style used when conversing, the more likely the pair would continue dating. The more their use of pronouns, prepositions, articles, etc. matched, the higher the probability they’d still be dating three months later.

His research also showed when two people pay close attention to each other, they automatically used words and language in similar ways.

If your sweetheart’s preferred way of being romanced is with words, here’s how to use the professor’s research to romance her/him.

  1. Actively listen to the words your sweetheart uses.
  2. Watch your sweetheart’s response to words you use.
  3. Be genuinely interested in your sweetheart.

First, you’ll find your words and language merging. And second, the romantic words you use will more effectively romance your sweetheart. Robert

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