While on a conference call have you ever:
- Surfed the web?
- Made another phone call?
- Wandered down the hall for a drink or restroom?
- (Almost) fallen asleep?
Found myself on a conference call last week that droned on. My concentration wandered. I’d heard the presentation before. So using my Bluetooth headset, I wandered down the hall and found:
- One person texting on her phone.
- Another checking Facebook.
- Someone lost in the land beyond their office window.
Why are conference calls such an inefficient means of communication?
- Most “communication” is one directional: I talk, you listen; and
- The leader of the call doesn’t seek input.
Consequently, people lose concentration and the flow of communication slows to the speed of ketchup.
This can happen when we’re communicating with our sweetheart.
If you’ve heard, “you’re not even listening to me” or “you’re a million miles away”, especially if your sweetheart prefers to be romanced with words or time, there’s a good chance communication isn’t happening.
Here’s a suggestion that might change this.
Almost every afternoon, my sweetheart and I talk on the phone as we head home from work. Until recently, I hadn’t realized how well we connect on these calls. Sometimes we share of our thoughts and ideas better on these calls then when we’re together in the evening.
There’s a couple reasons for this:
- No household chores, TV, text messages or other distractions demand our attention.
- It’s private, just the two of us. We can say what we want.
Maybe this will help your relationship and your romance.
- Find a way to directly communicate without distractions.
- Consider what you want to communicate.
- Enjoy the intimacy.
- Romance your sweetheart with time and words.
Just watch where you’re driving.
Love to hear about when is the time/circumstance where you and your sweetheart communicate. Robert