Who would you consider a great leader?
- Winston Churchill?
- Indira Gandhi?
- Ronald Reagan?
- Golda Meir?
Among the characteristics of these and other great leaders, one trait stands out: they know themselves well. They have learned where they excel and where they don’t.
Leaders understand that no single person can excel at everything. You won’t find them negotiating contracts, writing computer code and auditing the books concurrently. They do what they do best and hire great people to handle the other areas.
- If their strength is creating a great vision for their country and they lack oratory skills to communicate their vision effectively, they’ll hire a person with great speaking skills.
- If they have the strength of character to stand up to others, sometimes to a fault, they’ll find a confidant who can suggest gentler views to situations.
You are called to be a great romantic leader in your relationship. It will serve you and your relationship well to know your strengths and your limitations.
Here’s how to put your leadership skills to work in your relationship:
Let’s say your sweetheart prefers to be romanced by spending time together. Your romantic preference is words. Ask your sweetheart to meet you at the sofa. During the time together, use your words to romance your sweetheart.
If your sweetheart’s preference is touch and yours spending time together, hold hands or cuddle during a movie.
The idea is to romance your sweetheart the way she/he prefers to be romanced by combining your “romantic-preference strength” with that of your sweetheart.
Next time you’re tempted to say, “I’m not a touchy-feely type of person,” be that great leader. Combine your romantic strengths with your sweetheart’s romantic preference and lead the way to romance. Robert