Passivity, the Enemy of Romance

When a relationship begins, uncertainty reigns. There are anxious moments wondering how the other will react. Over time, you become comfortable as you become more familiar with each other.

This can be good for a relationship. You relax in each other’s company. It can also be unhealthy for romance if:

  • When and how you kiss becomes routine;
  • Where you dine, what you order becomes routine;
  • What and when you gift falls into a routine;

Familiarity can also breed passivity, the enemy of romance.

Passivity means you no longer put energy into your relationship, leaving romance sputtering like a child’s spent sparkler.

I hope this doesn’t describe your relationship. If you suspect it to be true, you can rekindle that spark of romance.

Time to be:

  • A little unpredictability,
  • A little uneasiness,
  • A little return to puppy love if you please.

Time to become an adventurer, a swashbuckler – someone bold, daring, audacious – a daredevil. You be the person in the relationship who takes a chance to trigger the spark which will bring romance back into your relationship.

Time to use familiarity to your advantage.

Commit to finding, in the next three, days one way to romance your sweetheart that meets the following criteria:

  1. Romance in the way she/he prefers to be romanced, and
  2. Romance in a manner you’ve not romanced your sweetheart in a long time.

Invite your sweetheart to cook breakfast together. Get a card and write a short love note. Buy a download of his/her favorite artist. Give a massage.

It doesn’t have to be much. Just a flicker outside your routine. You’ll both may be pleasantly surprised at the response. Robert

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Helping people grow relationships via romance. Been studying, researching, observing what is romance and how to be romantic since the 90's.
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