No Romantic Resolutions This Year

New Year’s Resolutions – Bah! Humbug! They’re a waste of time, can’t be kept, and depress me cause at the end of the year all I get is another year older.

Can you relate?

Many people write New Year’s Resolutions. They go through the motions but don’t really expect to achieve them.

As Richard Flint told me, any resolution to improve is a lie if you don’t believe you can achieve it. A statement of intent that lacks commitment is actually a lie.

That slapped me like a wet towel in a locker room. If I actually plan to make a change, I gotta whole heartedly commit to do whatever it takes to make that change. Do or do not.

Startlingly, best-selling author Famit Sethi, found in his research a quirk of human nature. We would rather continue doing something that doesn’t work rather than try something new that COULD work — but also could fail.

Over the years, the number of New Year’s resolutions/commitments I make have dwindled. This year I’ve written down only three I’m committed to keep.


  • It’s easier to focus on just a couple commitments.
  • I have time to develop the steps to their achievement.
  • They compound – two or three changes year-by-year add up.

I’d rather make few and succeed with all, then make many and fail at most.

I challenge you to make only two specific romantic resolutions/commitments for the new year.

  1. If you haven’t already done so, discover how your sweetheart truly prefers to be romanced, and
  2. Starting in February, romance your sweetheart once a month in this manner.

This resolution will transform your life and your relationship.

What commitment to romance are you making this year? Would love for you to share. Robert

About RomanceALIVE

Helping people grow relationships via romance. Been studying, researching, observing what is romance and how to be romantic since the 90's.
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