Phubbing’s Not Romantic

It’s not very romantic to phub your sweetheart.

Research finds:

  • 46% of respondents phubbed their sweetheart.
  • 23% stated phubbing caused conflicts between the two of them.
  • 37% reported feeling depressed because their sweetheart phubbed them.


Imagine you and your sweetheart are deep in intimate conversation. Words are your preferred way to be romanced and you’re feeling connected. Then your sweetheart’s eyes drop from looking into yours to glancing at their phone.

Or maybe you ask for a few moments together. Time is your preferred way to be romanced. As you snuggle up for some one-on-one, your sweetheart takes out their phone and strategically places it where it can be monitored.

You were just phone snubbed – phubbed.

According to James Roberts (Baylor University), “Something as common as cellphone use can undermine the bedrock of our happiness – our relationship with our romantic partners.”

Here’s how to prevent phubbing from interfering with moments of romance.

  • If you’re a potential phubber, put the phone out-of-site, out-of-mind.
  • If your sweetheart is prone to phubbing you, let your sweetheart know three’s company, and that means the phone.
  • If you must be connected because of work or children, suggest you schedule time when you don’t have those pressing responsibilities and put the phone away.

Mobile phones are wonderful tools for staying connected to your sweetheart throughout the day. I use it to let my sweetheart know she’s on my mind and shrink the miles when we’re an eight-hour flight apart.

You can intentionally prevent this connectivity device from obstructing (phubbing) a special moment between you and your sweetheart. Be romantic, not phub-mantic smothering. Robert

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