With a gentle nudge, the tug began pushing the Boeing 737 backwards signaling the start of our long anticipated vacation. We were headed west.
I’d predestined that very moment to add a bit of romance.
My sweetheart’s preferred way of being romanced is with the gift of time. It’s difficult to be romantic when you’re sharing a limited space with over 100 other people.
That didn’t deter me.
As the pilot cranked up the port-side engine, I pulled out the handwritten card and casually set it on her lap. In a few words I let her know how much I was looking forward to sharing the next 10 days with her.
Instead of her preference, I used words to romance her.
Firstly, it’s important to learn how your sweetheart prefers to be romanced:
- Little gifts;
- Gentle touching;
- Words of affection;
- The gift of your time.
It is also important to vary how you romance your sweetheart, adding variety to your romantic life.
If your sweetheart prefers to be romanced with the gift of time, don’t get stuck exclusively using this romantic preference. Mix it up. Romance your sweetheart with a little gift or a gentle touch sometime. Bringing this variety to your relationship has several benefits:
- Ruts of repetition are eliminated;
- Unpredictability builds anticipation;
- Your sweetheart’s preference remains special.
If you feel constant pressure to find ways to romance your sweetheart using only your sweetheart’s main preference, that’s a big challenge. You either romance in circles, using the same approach over and over, or you burn out and quit trying.
Keep your relationship fresh. Bring variety to how you romance your sweetheart. Use various ways of romancing your sweetheart or combining ways. This helps you build a great relationship and keep your Romance Alive. Robert
If you’d like to learn more about my view of the ways to romance your sweetheart, check out Growing Romance on my website.