Valentine’s Alternatives

Who should I believe.

I’ve been told that for Valentine’s Day my sweetheart wants:

  • Flowers,
  • Chocolate-covered strawberries,
  • Pajamas,
  • A 4’ teddy bear,
  • A trip to a luxurious island resort,

So many choices. So much Valentine’s expectations. I’m set up to “fail”!

Here’s an idea to lower the Valentine’s expectations and make your Valentine’s celebration more impactful.

On Valentine’s Day, take a 30-minute break with your sweetheart. While enjoying a cup of coffee or a fast-food lunch, give your sweetheart a short, handwritten note telling why you’re glad your sweetheart is your Valentine.

During this break, invite your sweetheart to join you in celebrating your relationship the weekend after Valentine’s day.

Plan something which romances your sweetheart how he/she prefers to be romanced.

  • Time: maybe a stroll or conspire to make dinner together.
  • Words: create and share a playlist of songs whose words express how you feel about your sweetheart.
  • Gifts: buy a small gift which brings memories of a place where the two of you spent time together.
  • Touch: find a place to dance cheek-to-cheek.

Planning for Valentine’s like this is advantageous to you and your sweetheart because:

  1. It takes the emphasis off the Hallmark-holiday and puts it on the relationship;
  2. You give the message you romance your sweetheart no matter the date;
  3. It’s easier to find a place to take your sweetheart and probably less expensive.

I’m not suggesting bah-humbugging Valentine’s. I suggest diluting the pressure of Valentine’s expectations. Focus on enjoying any day together and enjoying your relationship even more.

Enjoy your Valentine.

Here’s an extra idea. If you’re looking for words to share, use this quote from best-selling author Rachel Gibson. “I want to be one of those old couples you see still holding hands and laughing after fifty years of marriage. I want to be someone’s forever.”

Enjoy Valentine’s day when it arrives. Robert


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