For 20 years, their lives centered around two children. Kid’s activities consumed energy and time.
This Sunday morning, they once again dashed about the house, prodding the younger child out the door. For five hours, chatter mingled with silence – not very different, yet distinct from other road trips. This time three passengers left the house and only two returned. For the second time they drove 200 miles from home, depositing a child at the door of higher learning.
Tears of farewell moistened cheeks. Driving silently down the street lined with trees of orange and yellow, each seemed absorbed in memories and haunted with, “Now that it’s just the two of us, what?”
We meticulously plan life with kids and endless activities, yet don’t plan for returning to life of just us. And when it returns to just two, will your romance still be alive?
It will if you plan for that day.
One of the greatest challenges couples face for keeping romance alive is a busy life, especially a family life.
In an active family life, romance doesn’t just happen. It takes deliberate planning to create time for romance. Relegating romance to anniversaries and Hallmark holidays results in:
- LosIng your ability to decipher your sweetheart’s preferences;
- Forgetting how to romance your sweetheart;
- Getting romantically rusty.
When it’s suddenly just two, it’s like learning to dance all over.
Combat this future now instead of trying to resurrect it later. If time for just two is at a premium, I encourage you to:
- Keep terms of endearment alive and daily tell your sweetheart, “I love you”;
- Date weekly, even if it’s just sharing your favorite TV show;
- Plan and carry out Romantic Interludes at least every two weeks.
By diligently keeping romance alive in the midst of raising children, your trip home from the college becomes a road trip filled with romance. Robert
If you’re looking for more ideas about romance, I’ve written a book, “A Year of Romantic Memos”. It’s available as an e-book on Amazon. Here’s the LINK.