Remember spontaneous decisions you and your sweetheart would make to go out for dinner and a movie? Or taking a Saturday afternoon drive that stretched into Sunday morning breakfast at a lodge?
Spur of the moment romance was easy to create. All you needed was a whim, a mischievous look to your sweetheart, an audacious suggestion, and the two of you were off on a serendipitous Romantic Interlude.
Then life got busy.
Jobs, kids, civic duties, and mom or dad’s taxi consume any time you once had for those memorable adventures. Thirty minutes to snuggle on the couch means both of you charge through chores, homework and bedtime like leathernecks storming the beaches of Normandy. When you finally throw yourself onto the couch, you’re so exhausted from beach-storming, you crumple into two sleeping heaps.
Is there any way to keep Romance Alive under those conditions?
Yes, there is. You can keep your Romance Alive. The difference? It’s not as likely to be created impulsively. To keep the pulse of Romance Alive in your relationship, it now takes some intentionality.
The good news is, you have an advantage keeping Romance Alive over that young couple you once were.
Where once it took big, audacious ideas to create an Interlude, you now have a relational foundation. Use that to your advantage. Let simple, deliberate, and at times crafty ideas keep Romance Alive.
- Instead of a fancy restaurant, take two hours together at a coffee shop while the kids practice soccer.
- Instead of a room with a view, take an afternoon for lunch and a stroll while the kids are at school.
- Instead of a five-hour drive to the mountains, enjoy conversation on a grocery run.
It takes forethought and creativity instead of impulse. But if committed, you can keep your Romance Alive in small, personal, imaginative ways. Robert
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