No Surprise Romance

You may find this amazing. Some people, possibly your sweetheart, don’t like surprises.

If true, how do you romance someone who’s uneasy when you create an unexpected Interlude?

During an interview on keeping Romance Alive after Valentine’s day, Ashley Manta discovered there are three key characteristics. One of those is “being present”.

Being present means:

  • Staying engaged in the moment with your sweetheart;
  • Keeping your sweetheart the center of your universe;
  • Listening, then ask interesting questions based on your sweetheart’s previous answers.

Maybe you’d like to surprise your sweetheart with a weekend getaway. You could require your sweetheart to decide your destination by asking, “where’d you like to go for a romantic weekend getaway”?

Your introverted sweetheart’s response might be, “I’m good. We don’t need to go anywhere.”


You could start the conversation, “is there some place in the world you’ve always wished you could go?”

I’ve always wanted to visit New Zealand’s Southern Alps,” might be the reply. Staying with your sweetheart, you follow up with, “what is it about those mountains that attract you?”

You continue to explore this attraction to the Southern Alps, asking probing questions.

  • What would it be like to experience snow in July?
  • What would you imagine us doing in the Southern Alps?

This continuing dialog might reveal the attraction to the Southern Alps involves snuggling together in front of the fireplace in a cozy cabin watching the wonders of a snowstorm.

Now take your sweetheart’s dream vacation idea and create a realistic romantic weekend in the mountains near your home.

Staying present in the conversation physically and emotionally, results in:

  1. Sharing a Romantic Interlude of imaginative dreaming, and
  2. The birth of an idea for a future Romantic Interlude you know your sweetheart will enjoy.

And no surprises for your sweetheart because together you created a Romantic Interlude to share. Robert


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