Sometimes I don’t listen too well.
You know how I’ve missed my sweetheart’s signal that she was ready for a bit less togetherness at least one evening. It took most of that evening for the message to slog its way through the bogs between my ears and the center of understanding.
In Spanish we say, “Entiendo pero no comprendo” – “I understand but I don’t get it”.
It’s not just because I’m a guy. Anyone who says that or uses the excuse, “because he’s/I’m just a guy”, is attempting to justify not paying attention.
Listening is a key part of romance. Not just hearing. It’s actually understanding the message, no matter how masked it might be.
Decoding the message behind the words will give you glimpses into how to romance your sweetheart.
Your sweetheart says:
“Have you ever noticed how a picture or a painting can change a room?”
Interpretation, “I would enjoy an evening at the museum.”
“I’d forgotten how much I enjoy the music of Heart”.
Understand, “I’d enjoy going with you to see Heart in concert”, or “I’d love a Heart playlist for our next road trip”.
“It seems like our lives are non-stop”.
The message, “I’d like some time for just the two of us”.
Through similar indirect clues, your sweetheart tells you how to create a Romantic Interlude which is meaningful to her/him. Listen, follow the shrouded breadcrumbs, assemble the information contained in these messages, and decipher your sweetheart’s romantic preference.
If you’re not sure how best to romance your sweetheart, connect your listening sense to your romantic antennae and piece together the hints sent your way. Become a romance-seeking Sherlock Holmes. Deduce your sweetheart’s romantic preference and create Romantic Interludes your sweetheart will be glad to receive. It’s all very elementary. Robert