Romance – can be as useless as a bag of hot air in the Sahara Desert!
You may think that a strange statement from this hopeless romantic. But it’s not only truth, it’s also something I firmly believe. What’s missing in that statement are the words in the dash.
The complete statement: Romance, without the foundation of a relationship can be (and usually is) as useless as a bag of hot air in the Sahara Desert. It’s empty, shallow and rooted in nothing.
I believe three parts form the foundation to a strong relationship:
- Personal honor;
- Mutual respect;
- Shared love.
The dictionary definition of honor: the evaluation of a person’s trustworthiness and social status based on that individual’s integrity and character.
Honor in practice seems to come down to two things.
First, honor is inward. It starts with the value we give ourselves – character. To live honorably you live by principles which rise above situations or culture. It begins with the choices you make when no one else is around and is revealed when you’re honored in public.
Secondly, honor is outward. It’s how you treat others. For example, you honor people when you acknowledge their sacrifice for you or others, when you take time to thank someone for what they’ve done. To honor is to unexpectedly praise someone privately or publicly for their contribution to life, yours and/or others.
When you bring your personal honor into a relationship, you bring your integrity. You live in such a way that your sweetheart knows you can be trusted to hold her/him and the relationship in high esteem. They can believe your romance has no ulterior motive, no hidden agenda.
And honor is attractive – irresistibly so.
Let your personal honor form part of the relational foundation with your sweetheart, allowing you to make Romance Alive for both of you. Robert