Happy New Years and welcome to 2018 – the year for Romance.
Remember when you felt those first clues of attraction to someone you’d met. You felt a little shiver of adrenalin when you talked with this person. It felt a bit uncomfortable and alluring at the same time. You were falling in love.
Then you began spending more time together. The initial physical attraction grew into personal attraction. His ideas fascinated you. Her personality and outlook on life intrigued you.
You’d fallen in love and this person became your sweetheart.
As your relationship continued, you learned to love your sweetheart. You made choices of doing things, special things for this person, even when you didn’t feel like it. You choose to put their interests and well-being first.
You learned to love your sweetheart.
• A daily choice to stay with this person, no matter how you feel.
• A recurring commitment to care about this person.
• A decision to refrain from exposing or taking advantage of their vulnerabilities.
Shared love means love going both ways. You share the choice, commitment and decision to love each other. It’s a two-way street.
A healthy relationship requires shared love, and shared love is the third side of the Relationship Triangle needed to support a healthy Romance Triangle.
The Relationship Triangle is the foundation for romance in your relationship. It consists of:
1. Personal honor;
2. Mutual respect;
3. Shared love.
What if your Relationship Triangle isn’t perfect? What if one side is not as firm as the others? Will your Romance Triangle suffer?
Good news. If you’re aware of these sides of the Relationship Triangle, if you’re working to improve each side of the Relationship Triangle, that is sufficient to support a great romance.
And your romance doesn’t have to be perfect either. Robert