Avoiding the UnRomantic Rut

Saturday morning and no reading glasses. I’d probably left them at work. Since I was in the area, I decided to check the office before going out to breakfast.

With my work ID, I badged my way through the employee entrance, up the elevator and into the silence of the 5th floor.

There they were, impatiently waiting for me to collect them.

Down the elevator, out the door and into the car. Four minutes, twelve seconds after arriving, I pulled out of my parking spot, turned left and headed down the familiar roads. Another 4 minutes and I was northbound on Highway 9.

What was I doing?!? The restaurant was a different direction. I should have turned right out of the parking lot and would already be seated at the Original Pancake House.

While the car was in drive, my mind was in neutral. I was headed a familiar direction but going the wrong way.

It’s easy to repeat an action so many times it becomes a habit. And habits can become ruts.

Is it possible your Romantic Interludes have become unromantic ruts? You’ve repeatedly romanced your sweetheart the same basic way so many times, it’s become boring.

You once gave your sweetheart a sweet-sayings card, and your sweetheart thanked you with a big hug and deep kiss. A week later you bring home another card and get a similar reaction.

Hmmm. Maybe I’m on to something here.

You buy another card, and another card, and . . . it’s become monotonous, the specialness lost – killed by the creation of an unromantic rut.

Romance needs variety. Romance needs unpredictability. Romance needs life.

If you’ve inadvertently created an unromantic rut, disrupt that pattern. Change things up. Do something different, unexpected

Let your sweetheart experience anticipation on how you might romance this week. Let variety keep your Romance Alive!

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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