Reduce Anxiety, Increase Romance

Five-hour flight. 7:40 a.m. departure time. Two kids to get out of the house by 5:00. Park the car for the 10 days away. Sprint to the gate. Ugh.

It would be a frantic, early morning to make it all happen. And her sweetheart couldn’t travel with them.

At this point in her story, Billie got a silly grin on her face. You know what I mean.

He did the most romantic thing. He told me he wanted to ease the pressure of that day. If I didn’t mind, he’d hired a car to give us curb-to-curb service from my door to the terminal door.”

How could this be romantic? There were no flowers. No fancy meals. No strolling, caressing or packages tied up in string.

He heard the apprehension in my voice and wanted to reduce my stress.”

Sometimes we get off target trying to create perfect Romantic Interludes. We plan and fret over what’s the best gift to romance our sweetheart. We try to select what we think may be the flawless bouquet or restaurant. We stress over the presentation.

And in all the frenzy of activity to make the most romantic moment ever, we forget one very important ingredient for romance.

Listening with our eyes and ears.

If you wonder how best to romance your sweetheart, listen with ears and eyes.

  • What’s your sweetheart telling you he/she considers romantic?
  • What’s your sweetheart’s reaction to Romantic Interludes or little kindnesses?
  • What concerns or wishes does your sweetheart share?

Billie’s sweetheart listened with his eyes and ears. He heard and saw tension. Then he asked if he could give her a little gift to reduce her anxieties.

He lightened her burden. And in his caring, she felt romanced.

What “romantic” action could you take today to relieve some pressure your sweetheart’s facing? Something to think about.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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Helping people grow relationships via romance. Been studying, researching, observing what is romance and how to be romantic since the 90's.
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