Following his high school graduation, Matthew entered college. To say he attended college would be a stretch. Social pursuits trumped scholastic pursuits. Finally, in a moment of personal honesty during his sophomore year, he acknowledged wasting his parent’s money. He packed, left Duke and got a job.
Twenty years later, Matthew realized those juvenile choices were limiting job opportunities. He quietly resolved he’d earn that college degree. He didn’t want anyone to know about his goal – not family, friend or not-friends. At least not until he’d succeeded.
Secretly he began studying, taking online classes and preparing himself for the biggest impediment between Matthew and beginning his quest, the fate-deciding SAT Test.
There was one person with whom he shared this top-secret, the only person he knew he could reveal his deepest, darkest secrets. Jordan, his best friend . . . his sweetheart.
Their friendship was the foundation of what kept their Romance Alive. The ability to share hidden parts of their lives deepened their relationship and helped them, after 15 years together, keep Romance Alive.
Romance comes easier:
- When your sweetheart is your best-est friend.
- When your sweetheart is the person you’re most comfortable sharing those private pieces of your life.
That’s because being Romantic requires taking chances. Keeping Romance Alive means trying something different, with no guarantees it’ll be enthusiastically received.
When there’s a Romantic fail, and they will happen, the security of the relationship which allows you to safely reveal your deeply buried parts with your sweetheart, also allows trial and errors. You know they won’t derail your relationship.
Whether your idea for a Romantic Interlude is unexpected, corny, grandiose, simple or exciting, when presented from the “safety” of a deep, intimate friendship with your best friend, you can take a risk and create a relationship where Romance truly lives.
Robert, a hopeless romantic