Scarlett was smitten with Mr. Wilkes, who was obsessed with Ms. Hamilton.
Margaret Mitchell’s imagination created the frustration, tension and “pitchin’ fits” of this romantic triangle in “Gone With The Wind.” This type of romantic triangle does not a great romance create.
If you will, let me introduce you to a Romantic Triangle which will help make your relationship great.
A triangle can form a firm foundation. Because of it’s three sides or legs, it is stable:
- It’s not prone to fall over like a one or two-legged stool.
- A quick adjustment of one or two legs, makes it steady no matter how level the surface.
The first side of my Romantic Triangle is time. To create romance in your relationship, you must dedicate time.
First, take time to learn what is romantic. How have others successfully romanced their sweetheart? What can I learn from them? Online and personal observations are a great resource here.
Second, take time to learn what your sweetheart considers romantic, how your sweetheart prefers to be romanced. What types of things can you do for or with your sweetheart to express your affection in meaningful ways, creating special shared memories?
This starts to step into the second side of the Romance Triangle, but that’s for later.
Third, take time to apply this knowledge and create Romantic Interludes for and with your sweetheart.
- Create unique and unexpected moments together,
- Plan Romantic Interludes and risk stumbling sometimes,
- Research, then suggest to your sweetheart ideas for romance.
Though it’s critical, time isn’t the most important side of the Romance Triangle. All are important. Without the two other sides, time has no purpose. More about the other sides in future Memos.
Devoting time to learn about romance, then planning romantic moments with your sweetheart, will help your relationship grow beyond good to great.
Robert, a hopeless romantic