“Robert, guess I’m not be very romantic. I’d really, really like to romance my sweetheart. I’ve tried but I end up like a bumbling teenager.”
I remember teenage years. I was sophomore. She was freshman. And I had no idea how to start a relationship. We’d talked a few times and I thought she might be interested.
But I had no idea what to do next.
Maybe you find yourself a little like a teenage Robert when it comes to romance. You’d like to romance your sweetheart and have no idea how to go from theory to practice.
Here’s an idea. Use other people.
Name 2 couples in your circle of life who have a great and romantic relationship?
- It’s obvious they enjoy each other.
- They seem to have a special spark in their relationship.
- And you sometimes catch them covertly connecting.
Here’s what I suggest. Spend an extended period of time observing how they interact.
Learn how that even if they’re not next to each other, they’re still connected when they’re in the same room. How to they stay connected? Do they physically connect from time to time, maybe even arrive hand in hand?
How do they talk with each other? In what types of activities do they seem most likely to participate? Are they a gregarious couple? Do they prefer quiet time alone together?
After some time of observing, intentionally develop a friendship, couple to couple. And as you get to know them better, ask them how they keep their romance alive.
You’ll be using one of the oldest methods for learning a new skill. You’ll become a protégé, learning the skills of romancing your sweetheart under the tutelage of a master romancer.
Choose you mentors wisely, and learn the skill of romancing your sweetheart.
Robert, a hopeless romantic.