My Cap Quest and Romance

Don’t remember how I came into possession of my old “captain’s” cap. Manufacturer’s tags are long departed. It’s comfortably worn. Colors’ faded, the top stained. But it has character. Someone once commented, “There’s gotta have a great story behind it.”

Last year, tragically, my cap met its match in Southeast Asia. Humidity, dust and the resulting sweat tattered the lining. Attempts to find someone to breathe life into it failed. I begrudgingly conceded it was time for a replacement.

With no clue as to the brand or style, the Cap Quest began.

  • Captain’s hats – too stuffy, fancy and no character.
  • Greek fisherman’s hats – too stiff and the wrong color.
  • Seaman’s caps – 533,000 results in 0.68 seconds but no match.

A captain’s cap like mine should be easy to find. But a multi- month search, my Cap Quest resulted in zero finds. Nothing in the world matched it.

Maybe you feel that way about romance – nothing seems to match your expectations.

Fortunately romancing your sweetheart isn’t as hopeless as my Cap Quest.

Romancing lessons from my Cap quest.

  1. Know what you want – how your sweetheart prefers to be romanced. A tingly touch? A little gift based on a shared memory?
  2. Evaluate your options against your romantic preference target. Your sweetheart may not enjoy a moonlit walk, but finds a poem heart-melting.
  3. Above all, persevere. Create the Romantic Interlude which best matches your sweetheart’s preference. And if doesn’t meet expectations, create another. And another.

Don’t let disappointing Interludes deter you. Persevere.

Creating a romantic moment, a Romantic Interlude that reminds your sweetheart why she/he fell in love with you takes dogged determination and persistence. And when you’re Romantic Quest triumphs, you’ll forget the disappointments of the quest.

After a year’s search, I found the only listing in the world for a canvas seaman’s cap from Abercrombie & Fitch.

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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