What’s Your Romantic Focus

For years I dreamt of touring full time with a Christian vocal band: creating sweet harmonies, seeing the joy we’d bring to thousands.

From college days to past my post-graduation diploma, I worked on my dream:

  • Weekend concerts and limited touring.
  • The routine: setup, rehearse, perform, chit-chat, teardown.
  • Another day, another venue.

Then I got my chance – full-time music.

But after two records and a cross-country tour, the dream ended quietly one December evening in Sarasota, Florida.

Fast forward several years.

Christmas was approaching. I’d stretched my finances to purchase a fire-opal pendant for my sweetheart’s crimson blouse. They’d sparkle together.

Eagerly I watched her open the box revealing the necklace.

Her reaction was tepid at best – disappointing to her and disheartening for me. Her thanks lacked her trademark Tigger bounce.

Maybe you’ve invested hours planning a Romantic Interlude for your sweetheart, putting your heart into buying this or arranging that. You anticipate an exuberant response and the creation of a special memory that’ll last for years.

But the forced smile signals failure.

If you find yourself with an outcome disappointing both of you, look for the lessons in the Interludes that don’t work. Understanding the lesson in failure means it’s not a failure but a steppingstone to success.

So consider this. You may suffer from what helped sink my dream.

I’ve realized one issue contributing to my failure was my focus. I was pursuing my dream, my vision. I didn’t think about the desires of others in the group. It became all about what I wanted.

Learn from my disappointment and ask yourself, “Was my focus on the Romantic Interlude I desired? Or was it centered on what my sweetheart desired?

Next Romantic Interlude you create, focus on your sweetheart’s preference. The results will much more satisfying for both

Robert, a hopeless romantic

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