For our Romance acrostic:
“R” = “Relationship”
“O” = your “Other half”.
“M” = “Memories”
“A” = “Action”
In order to have romance in your relationship, you must take Action.
Many years ago, I developed the Romance Triangle.
Side 1: TIME. In order to romance, you must make time
- to learn to romance,
- to consider ways to romance your sweetheart, and
- actually romance your sweetheart.
Side 2: PREFERENCES. You know I write extensively about learning how your sweetheart prefers to be romanced. This is important because there’s often dissonance between how you and your sweetheart prefer to be romanced.
You feel romanced through touch. You may think your sweetheart feels romanced when you hug him/her. However, if you spend time learning your sweetheart’s preference, you discover she/he prefers to be romanced through words: spoken, written or in a song. That’s vital information.
Side 3: ACTION. Learning about romance, learning your sweetheart’s romantic preference and taking no Action is like getting a diploma in underwater basket weaving. It’s just as useless as knowing about Romance without taking Action.
In total honesty, for 3 days I grappled with the idea of writing another Romantic Memo. A personal situation is challenging me at deep levels. I wonder, what is the “right” thing to do? Feeling totally drained, I’ve even wondered if these Memos serve any purpose.
So I started drafting this Memo. After typing the word Action, I pressed the CR key and – kazaam!
Instead of waiting for things to resolve themselves, I must take Action.
Sometimes you’re not sure what to say or do – concerned your Actions could be “wrong”. But it’s better to take the wrong Action then no Action. Because taking no Action means no Romance. But taking Action means you have the chance to truly romance your sweetheart.
For me, taking Action lifted the burden. I still continue learning.
Robert, a hopeless romantic
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