Many people equate Christmas with giving gifts. They might think,
“I gotta get a gift for so-and-so”, or
“I get to get a gift for so-and-so”
Whichever view best reflects your thoughts also affects your outlook on Christmas.
If it’s “I gotta”, you probably dread Christmas. It’s a burden and you might feel resentment towards people and Christmas.
If it’s “I get to”, Christmas is probably a joyous time of year for you. You look forward to the treasure hunt to discover gifts specifically suited to the receiver. You enjoy watching the smile and grinning eyes of the receiver when they open the gift.
Depending on “gotta” or “get to”, the gift can be:
- a “solution gift” which simply solves the problem of having to get a gift, something good enough, or
- a “selected gift” which is specifically selected for the receiver and matches the receiver’s preferences and personality.
In your relationship, if your sweetheart’s preferred way of being romanced is the receipt of gifts, your approach to gift giving extends well beyond the day for Santa’s delivery.
- Do you give your sweetheart gifts because you gotta do it, it’s your duty? Or,
- Do you give your sweetheart gifts because you enjoy romancing her/him as they prefer being romanced?
As you exchange gifts, whether for Christmas or Hanukkah, I trust you will realize what a privilege you have to find something unique, something specific for the receiver.
And throughout the year, when you give your sweetheart a romantic gift, remember this is a unique privilege to touch him/her in an intimate way. That’s romantic. Robert