Sometimes their visits lasted for days. Other times, it went on for a month or more.
When parents finally headed west, we’d look at each other silently, then comment on the sounds of quiet – until one of our kids thought they needed attention – immediately.
I admit I didn’t always appreciate their visits. On those occasions when they seemed to have claimed squatter’s rights to my house, my tolerance levels were even more challenged.
Truth is, it was both good and bad. It all depended on my focus.
Grandparents love to spend time with their grandkids. Grandparents can give kids focused time us parents don’t have. They dote over them and spoil them a bit.
At the same time, parents of parents can take over the family’s life. Their presence interrupts the everyday flow of family life. And who’s the boss?
Maybe you live close to your parents. Maybe your parents come for extended visits. Either way, they can give you an opportunity to romance your sweetheart.
Let me explain.
Grandparents pamper grandkids. Grandkids bask in grandparents’ attention. And kids can make one-on-one time with your sweetheart difficult.
The solution? Ask your parents if they’d keep the kids for an evening or a weekend.
Once they’ve agreed to the idea, plan
- a lazy dinner,
- a shopping trip to another city,
- an early morning stroll in the park and a quiet brunch,
- a day at an amusement park.
Make Plans together: Ask the parents to babysit, then plan some time doing things you’ll both enjoy. And while you’re away, join together to find a little “thank you” to take home for the parents.
Like so many things in life, you can discover positives no matter life’s situations. Consider ways to use your situation to romance your sweetheart.
Robert, a hopeless romantic
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